Funerals

The death of someone we love is inevitably painful and traumatic. We want to help you as much as we can at this difficult time. If you live in the Parish, or worship in one of our churches, you are entitled to the help of a Priest to assist you through the process of making funeral arrangements and mourning. It may be that you would like a Priest to take a service for you at a local cemetery or crematorium or you may prefer to have a service in one of our churches before going to the cemetery or crematorium for a much briefer service of committal.

The service can be done with great simplicity or with more ritual and ceremonial. We will try to help you to decide what is best in your circumstances. It is important that the funeral helps you say goodbye to the person you love so the Priest will spend however long is necessary planning the service with you.

If a funeral happens in church:

• The coffin may be brought into church the day before the funeral or may arrive with the mourners at the time of the funeral
• The coffin may be draped in a beautiful pall to represent the continuing protection of the Baptismal robe. A crucifix and an open Holy Bible may be placed on the coffin. The Easter candle of new and risen life will burn near the coffin to show that as we die in Christ, so we shall be raised in Christ
• The Priest will welcome everyone and say a prayer
• Sometimes members of the family read from the Bible; sometimes they read poems written by others or by themselves
• The Priest or a member or friend of the family will talk about the deceased person
• The Priest will pray for the deceased person and for those who mourn. Usually everyone joins in saying the Lord’s Prayer
• The Priest may sprinkle the coffin with holy water to remind everyone of the promises secured in the waters of Holy Baptism. He may also burn incense to remind everyone of the sweetness of Heaven
• He will bless everyone before the coffin and mourners leave the church
• There can be hymns, organ music, a choir and a Requiem Mass.

After the service:

• The coffin will be taken to the graveside or the crematorium for committal
• The priest will contact a few days after the service to ask if he can be of any help
• If at any time you would like help with a bereavement problem or want to talk about the issues raised here please contact Fr Andrew Norwood

Memorial Services

After a period of time has passed, it is often a very good thing to organise a memorial service in remembrance of a loved one.

Giving thanks is an important and very human response to the God-made uniqueness of the life of someone special, but a funeral is often not quite the time for such thanksgiving to be expressed, because of feelings of loss and grief that naturally dominate the heart and mind.

Please do get in touch if you would like to discuss holding a Memorial Service at either church in our Parish. The Church is a noble and dignified space, and the Clergy have a lot of experience in organising Memorial Services. They will be happy to talk with you about that.